From my point of view, 'FRIENDSHIP' consists of two words which is Friend and Ship. So, to make it clear. The clear definition of Friendship is 'Friend' is an attached person by another. He/ She might be the closest person with you. You shared almost same behavior. You understand towards each other feeling. Whereas, 'Ship' can be classified as this is according to Dictionary. com it is a vessel, especially a large oceangoing one propelled by sails or engines.
Have you ever experienced your friends cancelling his/her promise in sudden? What are your feeling during that moment? At the beginning, you already planned about thing, than in sudden it was cancelled. I bet all of you must be feeling really angry right? Well, it is ordinary behavior in friendship. But, it leaved scars in our heart. And, in sudden, person who is your friend before ( do not confuse with friend and best friend. ) become your frenemies. And what is the frenemies about? Frenemies is a combine word Friend + Enemy = Frenemies. Do you have any idea regarding Frenemies? And why it is called Frenemies?
Let me tell you, in order not to hurt your friends feeling, you have become a hypocrite person. Why? Because, you are letting those person to do what ever he/ she wants , where you have to pretend that you don't upset with their attitude. Lets look around us. Some people have many friends but in real life they are alone. Some people do not have mush friends, but they are happy. Why is this happening? This contribute to many factors. First of all is, the person is not sincere with the relationship that bound among their friends. They do not have much time to interact with each other, and others might feel that they be friends with him because of hidden agenda. This is usually happens in our society. They tend to be very kind towards a person that they have targeted to be their next slave ( people that be used for their granted) . Talking about attitude and behavior, we have seen many of it. It's up to ourselves to bother it or not. Enough talking about the frenemies. Let's move on how to handle a situation with your frenemies.
They are a few ways that I can suggested to you. First, you keep up the good relationship with your frenemies. Treat them nicely. As it can reduce your depression and help you to control your anger. Secondly, talk to them nicely, or just let it be. Do not great them in a while. Let them know what have they done to you. There are many ways that you practice but the most important thing is you must know how to control your anger. Yes, it is true that frenemies are problematic. But give them a chance to change into a new leave. Who know, they might be your real friends in your future. I remembered that this person used to give me an advice. She said that " You never be a good friends with that person, if you don't fight with him / her " . As long as you know how to handle the situation , then you can be the hero of the day.
Just remember, that nobody is perfect. Before we judged people, we have to judged ourselves first. And, do not hate others. Even our Prophet forbid us to hate people.
Thanks for reading guys.
Nice information about frenemies. I guess frenemies are unavoidable, they will appear in our life, at many level. However your tips might help people in handling frenemies. Thanks for the information :D
ReplyDeleteThanks dear reader. My hope that my reader can gain as many information from my post. ^^
ReplyDeleteI've read your entry. I found that it is very interesting yet informative. I admit that frenemies does happen in our life. Whether we realize it or not. Sometimes, they might come as a good friend, pretending that they were sincere with the relationship but the truth is they are only want to be friend with us just to take us for granted. Anyway, your point on how to handle frenemies is very useful. TQ.
ReplyDeleteDear atyn nmee
ReplyDeletethanks for your encouraging words.
Hope that you have the point on how to handle frenemies. ^^